I think it's important to realize the impact that words can have; their ability to deeply wound and the inability to ever take them back. Sure, we can apologize for our words and we may be forgiven, but words are never forgotten. Words can change a person's life forever, often irrevocably. If you were upset at your boss, for example, even if he/she did something to really hurt you (intentionally or not), would it be wise to start shouting and swearing at him?
We all say things in the heat of anger. Often, we regret what we've said or more importantly, how we've said it. It's important to be able to talk and express our feelings openly and honestly. It's not necessary or fair to build up perceived resentments and then explode with raised voices and profanity. There are some boundaries that should never be crossed. Jobs can be lost, friendships can be severed and families can be torn apart by our inability to control our anger, and to even try to learn healthier ways to communicate.
We need to take ownership and responsibility for our feelings and try to see situations from the other person's perspective. Focus on the good in others, and find healthy ways to communicate about the things that upset us.
Watch your words.
This work by Suzette Leeming is licensed under a Creative Commons Attribution 2.5 Canada License.
